Journal #6

How many times in a week would you say the word 'should' when making decisions about things? For example, 'Should I go to the party even though I am feeling tired?' ' I should call my sister back to avoid her getting upset with me' or 'I should go and tend to my kids needs rather than squeeze in the 20-minute meditation that I know will make me feel better'. I am not sure about you, but this was a constant dialogue I had with myself daily. Until I began to take inventory of how much I said the word 'should'. Have you ever thought about what would happen if you actually turned that 'should' into a 'no'. What would that feel like? I imagine scary at first, but in the end, amazing! It might mean you are actually listening to your needs as opposed to the needs of others. You are finally pleasing yourself, rather than your fellow party goers, your sister or children. I am sure they will forgive you for saying 'no'. You might be pleasantly surprised that in fact they might not actually give two hoots, and instead understand that you have things to do and just sometimes you need to put yourself first.

So try it… I challenge you! Start listening to yourself, and when you hear the word 'should', allow yourself to be completely honest as to whether it's worth your energy or not. Tune into your authority and learn to say 'no' from time to time. See what happens, maybe something wonderful will come out of it! I would love to hear how you go.